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2013

Happy New Year’s Day!

No time to waste: it is time to start making good on your New Year’s Resolution. Was it to exercise more? Spend more time with family? Get outside more? Spend less on coffee? Finally start that home improvement or crafting project? Eat healthier? Floss? No matter what you selected, I hope it has an element of fun and the pursuit is rewarding.

I would like to take this opportunity to reflect on two past resolutions of my own: flossing and running 2000 miles in a year. Flossing first.

I came home from my first semester of college and was shocked to learn that I had eight cavities! Not just shocked, but viscerally upset: I cried (a little) in the car. I brush my teeth twice daily and eat a mostly balanced diet. I did not understand how this happened. No individual culprit was identified, but suspects included gum, gatorade, and diet changes. After a long procedure, I was deemed cavity cured and was encouraged to moderate and alter consumption patterns. I also took this as a personal wake-up to start flossing. Thus, my 2009 resolution was to floss daily, and I estimate I achieved a 90% success rate. I maintain this rate presently and am proud to be a regular flosser.

Riding on the success of my 2009 resolution, I committed to a 2010 goal of running 2000 miles in the calendar year. The idea for this goal came in my senior year of high school when I was only 50 miles shy of the 2000 mark. Forty miles per week over fifty weeks? Roughly seven miles per day six days a week? Reasonable enough for a long time runner, or so I thought January 1.

Finished!
Finished! On Christmas day (I ran 11 miles the next week)

My plan did not play out quite so simply. I was sidelined by injuries and other commitments, and by August, I was only halfway to my goal. Thankfully, a mentor encouraged me to continue my pursuit as I was questioning my resolve. Through the fall, I ran 50-70 miles per week to stay on pace. I completed another running goal en route: 100 miles in a single week. I loved it, but it also limited me. I forwent socializing to log miles. My friends and family did not seem to quite understand why 2000 was so important, which made it harder to celebrate my progress and the sacrifice it demanded. I reached my goal on December 25 following a five mile run, my Christmas present to myself. In total, I ran 2011 miles – one for every year and one for good luck. In reflection, I am glad I did it, but if I never do it again, that will be okay too.

What about this year? I don’t have a resolution, not yet anyway. There are some things I plan to experimentally change, for instance adding more dancing to my social calendar. This is the first full year I will not be formally enrolled in school, and I am in pursuit of a new job in a new city. These facts are guaranteed to shake things up, so I am hesitant to plan too much. I would like to resolve to keep blogging, and I think that meets my suggested criteria of fun and rewarding.

Here’s to 2013!

xo xo gossip girl

gossip girl lips

6 seasons, 121 episodes, 80+ hours, and my coup is complete. I have watched every episode of Gossip Girl in 16 weeks, finishing in time to watch the season six finale live on Monday night. Here’s a post to what I’ve loved and learned.

“you know you love me, xo xo”

Finding a single picture to capture elegance on the Upper East Side was a challenge, one I defeated by giving you a picture of Blair's wedding headband #Want.
Blair’s wedding headband #Want.

Gossip Girl brought me a world I did not know existed. One of high fashion high school, outrageous parties, and enough disposable income to afford it all without a second thought. To live there means you walk the sidewalk like it is a runway. In any given episode, you are guaranteed a high society event or an over the top party. I marveled at the abundance of silk, sequins, and stilettos. Then again, even the high school uniforms became a pallet for inspiration, and Blair Waldorf inspired me to take headbands to heart.

From headbands to earbuds, no society event is complete without music. Watching the older seasons was like listening to my high school iPod. I smiled while remembering where I was when those songs were popular, and enjoyed the progression to the present. Of course, my favorite was Lady Gaga’s guest appearance to perform “Bad Romance” in Season 3 Episode 10.

Season 6 CastBut what would the fashion and music be without Serena, Dan, Blair, Chuck, Nate, and the many others? Collectively, they became part of my routine: What were they up to? Who were they seeing? Where were they going? What did Gossip Girl say about them? Like characters in novels, I was privy to their private worlds, and by degrees, I became invested in their futures. I celebrated their victories, empathized with their struggles, and groaned when they sabotaged each other again (Serena and Blair were particularly bad about this). I feel like the end of the show is the end of our friendship. They will be frozen in time while I continue on my journey. Certainly new shows will rise to take Gossip Girl’s time slot, but they will want to make new statements, and I question whether any will be as memorable as “xo xo.”

Yesterday marked the end of an era. One of frivolity and extravagance, but also of loyalty and friendship. Inane drama aside, the show offered some valuable lessons on growing up and finding our way: Blair and Serena always forgave each other, Nate found honesty in business and in family, Chuck discovered charity and unconditional love, and Dan made his dream of becoming an insider true. They will be missed. Thank goodness for Netflix.

Now a few tips on how to stay off (or get on) Gossip Girl’s radar. After all, “you’re nobody until you are talked about.”

Paternity Test1. Never leave sensitive personal information lying around. Never. Period. Personal information you should not leave in plain sight includes emails, gchats, text messages, pictures, partially written novels, and paternity tests. Someone will find it and publish it, or they will keep it close and use it as blackmail. Usually the thief is a person you trust such as a friend or family member because naturally you know better than to leave secrets unguarded when enemies are lurking. Unfortunately your trustworthy person recently found a reason to be angry with you, probably over something silly or that they don’t understand (see number 2), and is eager to exact revenge. So remember, every time you give someone keys to your office/apartment/car or you walk out of the room to take a call/check your makeup/try on a dress or one of a million variations on this theme, you are leaving those little secrets for the world to see. Think twice and always take your cell phone with you.

Eavesdropping
Eavesdropping only leads to trouble.

2. You never have the full story. Characters in Gossip Girl are constantly walking in at just the wrong moment or overhearing the single out-of-context line of dialogue. It is what the show thrives on. “You don’t trust me!” “I can’t believe you!” “Wait, I can explain!” If you find yourself in a situation like this, assume you do not have the whole story and save everyone (including yourself) the embarrassment of learning this later. Get the full story immediately. Know and trust your friends. Understand there are always complicating details. And follow number 1 to avoid the situation in the first place.

Typical when caught lying to your "bff."
Typical when caught lying to your “bff.”

3. Tell the truth now and avoid the hassle later. So many of the scandalous situations on the Upper East Side could be avoided if characters just told the truth the first time (of course, the show would be dull if they did, but this is lessons learned, not how-to-write-a-hit-show). A deliberate omission or blatant lie often results in either heartbreak, forsaken friendship, or bodily harm, and sometimes a combination of the three. Even white lies have the power to destroy. Lies do not work because usually someone will leave something personal lying out (number 1) or they will fail to get the whole story (number 2), confront or sabotage you, and ultimately the truth you were trying to protect will be revealed.

“As for me? I’m right where I want to be, and I only want to be with you. xo xo”

With that farewell and those little lessons, I mark the conclusion of Gossip Girl. What next? Well I hear that Downton Abbey is causing quite the scandal.

xo xo, gossip girl

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For those not indoctrinated in the complex world of GG, a Gossip Girl blast is a text message that shares information of a scandalous nature often leading to “I can explain” moments and much embarrassment for those involved. The blast is typically delivered in a snarky, know-it-all tone with allusions to iconic cultural events and well-known narratives. A GG blast may include a photo and in rare instances, a video. These multi-media blasts are preferable because they corroborate the information presented and make explaining all the more difficult.

Typical
Typical

On Mistletoe and A Community

Sometimes a girl just wants to write her blog. My sincere apologies for the long delay between posts, but I am learning to accept there are only so many hours in a day, and sleeping less is not a viable option. Now on to the post:

Two weekends ago, I traveled to Winston-Salem to run the Mistletoe Half Marathon. It was a beautiful weekend for a race, and I am happy to report that I placed third in my age group, 98/1100+ overall, and ran a PR (personal record/best). But what has me smiling most is remembering the sense of belonging and connection I felt while spending time with friends. In fact, the opportunity to reconnect is what convinced me to run the race.

I signed up shortly after the Old Guns and Young Ones (OGYO) were victorious at the Southern Odyssey Relay. I knew several of my teammates would participate in the Mistletoe, and I already missed their round-the-clock company. I must also give credit to OGYO Captain and All Around Superstar Paige, who sent me her Mistletoe training schedule and inspired me to create one of my own. But there is something more both the OGYO and Mistletoe participants share that holds an even greater gravity: our connection with Eagle’s Nest.

Before!
Before!

Whether they were campers, counselors, parents of campers, or camp staff, all had heard the mission “Experiential education for young people promoting the natural world and the betterment of human character” and had seen the transformative power of time on 43 Hart Road. My first summer there was as a counselor in 2010. I remember feeling uncertain where I would belong, but Eagle’s Nest-ers talk more about community than anyone else I know, and they are adept at creating a place for each individual to participate and to shine. With encouragement and friendship, they helped me to find my niche. Now two years later, I would like to report that my niche has become a second home. As a Nest-er, I share the values of connection, community, and leadership, and I believe the sense of home is universal for my teammates and racing compatriots. Our bond is exceptional and extends far beyond PRs and finish lines. Driving home from the Mistletoe, I smiled the whole way.

In the same way I have learned time limits us, I have also learned that as we walk (or run) down our respective paths, we look for the people and groups we can call “ours.” The Eagle’s Nest community is one of the most welcoming, supportive, and rewarding communities I have had the privilege to join, and if I am being deeply honest, the people of the community are more like extended family. So yes, the weekend was in part about a race, but in a much bigger sense, it was about a community I cherish.

Congratulations All Around
Congratulations All Around